中国超2亿人单身

在中国，已有超过两亿人单身。数据显示，在一线城市，大约40%左右的单身青年都处于“月光”的生活状态；随着城市等级向下及月收入的降低，“月光”比例大幅提升，四五线城市的单身年轻人中，“月光”人群所占比例高达76%。

借（cèng）此（gè）机（rè）会（diǎn），我们来看看单身的那些事儿。

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9 Ways Being Single Can Improve Your Life

TIME

Being single isn’t always a walk in the park—especially when movies and television shows seem to push the concept that you aren’t truly “complete” until you’ve found a significant other.

People’s single lives are often portrayed as a sort of purgatory they are forced to endure until they find their soul mates. So much so that a 2008 study published in the European Journal of Social Psychology found that single people are often thought to be unhappy by others.

But experts say these stereotypes couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, the 2008 study also found that single people self-reported levels of well-being that was similar to participants in relationships. And there are plenty of benefits that come along with living your life free of a romantic relationship. Here are a few, according to experts:

①Your mind is uncluttered

“Believe it or not, relationships are ‘mentally’ expensive,” says relationship expert and bestselling author, Susan Winter. “Intimacy and partnership takes up a lot of space in our heads. Even though much of this is happening unconsciously, there’s simply a lesser capacity for individually focused thought.”

Winter refers to the time people in relationships inevitably spend worrying about their partners and, at times, ruminating on even the smallest quarrels, as “the price of love.” This sort of stress can inhibit people’s happiness by keeping them from living in the now, she says.

“Emotional discord can be all-consuming as it removes us from the present moment and present situation,” Winter says. “This is true whether the internal turmoil is based on a fight with our mate, or a fear for their health and wellbeing.”

Conversely, “being single is an act of purging the clutter and making room for new thoughts (and dreams) to breathe and grow,” she adds.

②You’re more open to whatever life throws your way

Being single can make people more willing to roll with the punches, experts say.

“It’s almost like you have no choice,” says Dr. Niloo Dardashti, a New York-based psychologist and relationship expert. “When you’re alone you have to be more self-sufficient.”

Free from the constraints of having a partner, people’s lives suddenly become totally and completely their own, according to Dardashti. There’s nobody hindering you from setting out to chase your ambitions. “You’re more likely to take risks and have adventures and have more novelty within your journey,” she says.

③You have time to get in touch with yourself

“People say a lot of times, when they’re in relationships, that they’ve lost themselves,” says Dr. Dardashti. “And that’s largely because we stop doing things independently.”

She says that in relationships, people risk losing touch with themselves because they have less time alone to focus on their own personal development. “When you’re alone, it creates opportunity for being more in touch with something inside of you,” she says.

Dr. Dardashti adds that a common complaint she hears from patients in relationships is that they’re feeling out of touch with their creative sides. When you’re single, she says there’s more room for creativity. “Can you have creativity and be in a relationship? Yes, of course,” she says. “But, for the average person, it’s hard to balance those two.”

④You have a chance to figure out what you want out of life

⑤It can be the best-case scenario

⑥It’s a chance to become financially responsible

⑦You can make self-care a priority

⑧You learn to enjoy your own company

⑨Your confidence level can skyrocket

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注：中文文本为机器翻译仅供参考，并非一一对应

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9 Ways Being Single Can Improve Your Life

TIME

Being single isn't always a walk in the park—especially when movies and television shows seem to push the concept that you aren't truly “complete” until you've found a significant other.

单身并不是件简单轻松的事情--尤其是当电影和电视节目似乎在推崇这样一个概念：在你找到一个重要的人之前，你并不是真正的“完整”。

比喻事情 “非常简单，轻而易举地就能完成”，就好像在公园里散步一样容易。表示“简单易做的事；做起来轻松愉快的事”，英文解释为“something that is very easy to do, and usually pleasant”举个🌰：

He's used to hard physical work - this is a walk in the park to him.

他很习惯于做重体力工作——对他来说是小菜一碟。

People's single lives are often portrayed as a sort of purgatory they are forced to endure until they find their soul mates. So much so that a 2008 study published in the European Journal of Social Psychology found that single people are often thought to be unhappy by others.

人们的单身生活经常被描绘成一种炼狱般的经历，他们被迫忍受，直到他们找到自己的灵魂伴侣。以至于2008年发表在《欧洲社会心理学杂志》（European Journal of Social Psychology）上的一项研究发现，单身的人常常被别人认为是不快乐的。

portray表示“描绘，描述，描写”，英文解释为“to represent or describe someone or something in a painting, film, book, or other artistic work”举个🌰：

The painting portrays a beautiful young woman in a blue dress.

这幅画描绘的是一位身穿蓝色连衣裙的美丽少女。

1）表示“（天主教教义中的）炼狱，涤罪所”，英文解释为“the place to which Roman Catholics believe that the spirits of dead people go and suffer for the evil acts that they did while they were alive, before they are able to go to heaven”

2）表示“痛苦的经历”，英文解释为“an extremely unpleasant experience that causes suffering”举个🌰：

I've been on a diet for two weeks now, and it's purgatory!

我已经节食两周了，真是太痛苦了！

But experts say these stereotypes couldn't be further from the truth. In fact, the 2008 study also found that single people self-reported levels of well-being that was similar to participants in relationships. And there are plenty of benefits that come along with living your life free of a romantic relationship. Here are a few, according to experts:

但专家表示，这些刻板印象与事实相去甚远。事实上，2008年的研究还发现，单身人士自我报告的幸福感水平，与恋爱人士相似。而且伴随你的单身生活，会有很多好处。根据专家的说法，以下是一些好处：

表示“模式化形象；成见；刻板印象”，英文解释为“A stereotype is a fixed general image or set of characteristics that a lot of people believe represent a particular type of person or thing.”举个🌰：

There's always been a stereotype about successful businessmen. 

对成功的商人们总有一种成见。

①Your mind is uncluttered 你的头脑是清醒的

“Believe it or not, relationships are ‘mentally’ expensive,” says relationship expert and bestselling author, Susan Winter. “Intimacy and partnership takes up a lot of space in our heads. Even though much of this is happening unconsciously, there's simply a lesser capacity for individually focused thought.”

“不管你信不信，谈恋爱在‘精神’成本上是比较高的，”情感专家和畅销书作家苏珊·文特尔（Susan Winter）说。“亲密关系和伙伴关系在我们的头脑中占据了很多空间。即使这其中的很多事情都是在无意识中发生的，但针对个人集中思考的空间却很少。”

表示“简洁的；少杂物的；利落的”，英文解释为“If you describe something as uncluttered, you mean that it is simple and does not contain or consist of a lot of unnecessary things.”

表示“亲密；密切；关系密切”，英文解释为“the state of having a close personal relationship with sb”。

Winter refers to the time people in relationships inevitably spend worrying about their partners and, at times, ruminating on even the smallest quarrels, as “the price of love.” This sort of stress can inhibit people's happiness by keeping them from living in the now, she says.

文特尔把恋爱中的人不可避免地花时间担心伴侣，有时甚至为最微不足道的争吵而胡思乱想，称为“爱情的代价”。她说，这种压力会抑制人们的幸福感，让他们无法活在当下。

表示“沉思，长时间思考”，英文解释为“to think carefully and for a long period about something”举个🌰：

She ruminated for weeks about whether to tell him or not.

几个星期她一直在反复考虑是否要告诉他真相。

表示“阻止；阻碍；抑制”，英文解释为“to prevent sth from happening or make it happen more slowly or less frequently than normal”举个🌰：

A lack of oxygen may inhibit brain development in the unborn child.

缺氧可能阻碍胎儿的大脑发育。

“Emotional discord can be all-consuming as it removes us from the present moment and present situation,” Winter says. “This is true whether the internal turmoil is based on a fight with our mate, or a fear for their health and wellbeing.”

“情绪紊乱会让人无所适从，因为它让我们脱离了当下和当下的状况，”文特尔说。“无论内心的纷乱是基于与伴侣的争吵，还是对他们的健康和幸福的担忧，都是如此。”

表示“不一致；不和；纷争”，英文解释为“disagreement; arguing”如：marital/family discord 夫妻/家庭不和。

表示“耗尽时间（或精力）的；全身心投入的”，英文解释为“taking almost all of your attention and time”举个🌰：

Money is an all-consuming passion with them.

他們对金钱的追求达到极致。

turmoil /ˈtɜːmɔɪl/ 表示“混乱；骚乱”，英文解释为“Turmoil is a state of confusion, disorder, uncertainty, or great anxiety.”

Conversely, “being single is an act of purging the clutter and making room for new thoughts (and dreams) to breathe and grow,” she adds.

相反，“单身是一种清除杂乱的行为，并为新的想法（和梦想）腾出孕育和成长的空间，”她补充说。

表示“相反地；反过来”，英文解释为“You say conversely to indicate that the situation you are about to describe is the opposite or reverse of the one you have just described.”举个🌰：

You can add the fluid to the powder, or, conversely, the powder to the fluid.

可把液体加入粉末，或者相反，把粉末加入液体。

1）可以作名词，也可以作动词，表示“清除，清洗，肃清（对手或反对者）”，英文解释为“to force people to leave a place or organization because the people in power do not like them”；

2）也可以指“清除（有害或不可接受之物）”，英文解释为：to remove something that is thought to be harmful or unacceptable，举个🌰：

He closed his eyes and lay still, trying to purge his mind of anxiety.

他闭上眼睛躺着不动，试图清除心里的焦虑。

📺美剧《美国恐怖故事》（American Horror Story: Asylum）第二季中的台词提到：I'll purge the demon myself. 我来净化这个邪灵。

表示“杂乱，凌乱；杂乱的东西”，英文解释为“a lot of objects in) a state of being untidy”举个🌰：

Sorry about the clutter in the kitchen.

对不起，厨房里杂乱不堪。

②You're more open to whatever life throws your way 你会对生活中的任何事情更加开放

Being single can make people more willing to roll with the punches, experts say.

专家说，单身会让人们更愿意应对各种困难局面。

字面意思是“在挨拳头时即随之滚动”，可以引申为在面临困难时懂得随机应变，表示“渡过一道道难关；克服一连串困难”，英文解释为“to be able to deal with a series of difficult situations”。

“It's almost like you have no choice,” says Dr. Niloo Dardashti, a New York-based psychologist and relationship expert. “When you're alone you have to be more self-sufficient.”

“这几乎就像你没有选择一样，”纽约的心理学家和关系专家尼卢·达达什蒂博士（Dr. Niloo Dardashti）说。“当你独自一人时，你必须更加自立。”

Free from the constraints of having a partner, people's lives suddenly become totally and completely their own, according to Dardashti. There's nobody hindering you from setting out to chase your ambitions. “You're more likely to take risks and have adventures and have more novelty within your journey,” she says.

达达什蒂认为，摆脱了伴侣的约束，人们的生活突然变得完全属于自己。没有人阻碍你着手去追逐自己的抱负。“你更能够承担风险、勇于冒险，在你的旅程内有更多的新奇感，”她说。

表示“阻碍，妨碍”，英文解释为“to limit the ability of someone to do something, or to limit the development of something”举个🌰：

High winds have hindered firefighters in their efforts to put out the blaze.

大风妨碍了消防队员扑灭大火。

🎬电影《杀手：代号47》（Hitman）中的台词提到：I know. don't let your incompetence hinder them. 知道了 别让你的无能妨碍了他们的工作。

③You have time to get in touch with yourself 你有时间去接触自己

“People say a lot of times, when they're in relationships, that they’ve lost themselves,” says Dr. Dardashti. “And that's largely because we stop doing things independently.”

“人们在谈恋爱的时候，很多时候都会说，他们已经失去了自我。”达达什蒂博士说。“而这主要是因为我们停止了独立做事。”

She says that in relationships, people risk losing touch with themselves because they have less time alone to focus on their own personal development. “When you're alone, it creates opportunity for being more in touch with something inside of you,” she says.

她说，在恋爱中，人们有可能失去与自己的联系，因为他们有更少的时间单独关注自己的个人发展。“当你独自一人时，它创造了与你内心的东西更多接触的机会，”她说。

Dr. Dardashti adds that a common complaint she hears from patients in relationships is that they're feeling out of touch with their creative sides. When you're single, she says there's more room for creativity. “Can you have creativity and be in a relationship? Yes, of course,” she says. “But, for the average person, it's hard to balance those two.”

达达什蒂博士补充说，她从恋爱中的患者那里听到的一个常见抱怨是，他们感觉与自己创造力的方面脱节。她说，当你单身时，有更多的创造力空间。“你能既有创造力又谈恋爱吗？当然可以，”她说。“但是，对于普通人来说，很难在这两者之间取得平衡。”

④You have a chance to figure out what you want out of life 你有机会弄清自己想要的生活是什么

⑤It can be the best-case scenario 这可能是最好的情况

⑥It's a chance to become financially responsible 这是一个承担财务责任的机会

⑦You can make self-care a priority 你可以把自理放在首位

⑧You learn to enjoy your own company 你学会了享受自己的陪伴

⑨Your confidence level can skyrocket 自信水平大幅提升

动词，表示“剧增；猛涨”，英文解释为“If prices or amounts skyrocket, they suddenly increase by a very large amount.”如：the skyrocketing costs of health care 暴涨的医疗费用。

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